Etiquette....how to not be a wanker

So let's all agree that dating for most people is a painful and arduous process, there are exceptions like my roommate or my best friend, filled with landmines and creepy people one is doing their absolute best to avoid...like the black plague.  With this being said every time one goes out with a new person, not someone you have known in any context and actually have a handle on, the hope is that at worst you get dinner or a drink and come home with a interesting story to relay and captivate friends and family with. At best, and believe me it can happen, you come home glowing after a night with someone whom you totally connected with on various levels and who you may or may not have spent over and hour making out with on a street corner at 1am. With this magical best come a follow up date or two or three or five you know a bit, all equally lovely and mind blowingly good and you think to your self "self this is someone we could actually you know LIKE". So here you are with body and mind in sync having great encounters with a person who you are not only attracted to but is also someone you could talk with for hours and then it happens...BAM! The world shift suddenly and that wonderful person you have been enjoying so and connecting with disappears without a trace, like the earth just opened up and Poof gone! Now it sucks being rejected especially by someone you were interested in but that is a quick wound in the realm of dating and mating. What actually sucks the most is to just be dropped and ignored with no courteous  "hey I'm not interested in seeing you or I can't date you anymore". I mean really people how hard is it to avoid being a total ass and just give a girl a clear indication that you are ducking out of the process. I'm sure there are women who are crazy imbalanced and will freak out on you threatening to cut of the royal jewels or something but honestly most (almost all) women would rather have the respect of at least ending the relationship than you suddenly going radio silence. Being rejected sucks and rejecting someone sucks because even if you have good reason, like he kind of sort of forgot tell you he was married, it is still hard to tell someone you aren't interested in them. This is especially true if you are someone who has been on the receiving end of rejection and/or are empathetic. But it is better to create closure than leave the other party in the dark wondering what happened to you, especially if you have been out on a date. The two minutes it takes to create closure for another person saves a world of chaos and heart ache. So to review don't be a wanker, be kind and tell the girl (boy, couple, whomever) thank you for a lovely time but I can't date you anymore. It will be a kind and interpretable move on your part and save the sane people you date some heartache and crazy time...if the person you are breaking up with is actually crazy you might want to think about hiring Mike Tyson for security and getting a restraining order or a can of mace.